When the word ‘prenuptial’ is brought up, it tends to bring about ill feelings. Feelings such as your fiancé is already planning the divorce before the marriage has happened or feeling that your fiancé is not that committed to you and on and on. It is true prenuptial agreements often get a bad rap and do not always have the best intentions behind them, but they are actually more common than you think.  In particular, when it comes to second marriages and blending families, prenuptials have become fairly common. A 2015 report from Pew Research Center indicated that 16 percent of children are living with a stepparent, stepsibling or half-sibling. When blending families you and your fiancé need to make sure your children from previous marriages will be protected should this second marriage come to an end. The prenup allows you to allocate where the money goes and help protect you from debts.

A prenuptial agreement details the disposition of current and future assets in the event of a divorce or upon the death of a spouse. Money has a way of stirring up emotions and rivalries, so it is best to head off any future problems before they can occur.

When developing a prenuptial agreement, a few things to consider are:

• Each spouse must fully disclose all of their assets and debts. Particularly if this is a second marriage and you are older, you have both most likely established separate financial lives. As your lives are combined, you both need to know exactly how much the other earns, what each of you owns and owes.
• Discuss what “fair” means to each of you. Most of the time one partner will be entering the marriage with more assets than the other, so determining what is fair to each of you is crucial.
• Determine which assets will be combined and which will be kept separate.
• Will you each pay for your own children’s care or will you pay for everything out of one pool of money? This is especially critical when children with special needs are involved.
• Who will pay for routine expenses like clothes, school, and extracurricular activities? Will the funds come from blended resources or individual?
• Decide how you will deal with financial imbalances if one extended family has more resources than the other does.
• Think about future big-ticket items like buying cars for your kids and determining how college savings will be funded.
• In the event of your death, how will your life insurance be distributed? More than likely, you will want your children from a previous marriage to receive at least some portion of the money and you will also want to make sure your current wife and any children from your current marriage.
• Additionally, you want to consider your estate plan. It is important to ensure any inheritance received goes to the right people. If these things are not clearly laid out beforehand, it can create an irreparable division among family members.
• Do not forget about retirement. You each need to make saving for retirement a top priority. Will you fund individually or jointly or both? Retirement funds often become a hot topic during divorce proceedings.
• Finally, a prenuptial agreement will help protect you against certain debts. You can specify which debts belong to whom and navigate through the confusion. The prenup can be written to protect your spouse from your debts and vice versa. You do not want your credit to be impacted from someone else’s mistakes and you do not want to be paying someone else’s bills.

Prenuptial agreements can serve as a roadmap for the ways you will share expenses and responsibilities. If you are already married but do not have a prenuptial agreement, it is not too late. You can still file a post-nuptial agreement. Contact Kevin Hickey Law Partners to help you develop your prenuptial agreement or post-nuptial agreement. Let our expertise help you determine the best agreement for you and your family. In order for a prenuptial agreement to hold up in court, an attorney is necessary.

You have found yourself somewhere you never thought you would, in an abusive marriage. You have had enough and decided to take the necessary steps to leave your spouse. Kevin Hickey Law Partners does not take these cases lightly. We will assist you in preparing a plan to help you successfully leave your spouse. The plan is designed to help you determine a safe location for you to stay, ways for you to establish your independence and filing for a protective order. An abusive relationship is dangerous and is of the utmost importance to prepare ahead of time by seeking an attorney that is sensitive to the situation and has your safety first and foremost.

Halloween is the unofficial start to the holiday season and it is often overlooked when divorcing parents are making visitation arrangements, because most are focused on the big ones like Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah and Kwanzaa. Parents get honed in on who gets the kids for Christmas morning and Thanksgiving dinner, but often aren’t prepared for where the kids are going to trick or treat, what type of costume is acceptable or a curfew for older children.

To avoid a horror story consider the following:

Plan and Communicate

Planning and communication is the first line of defense to avoid the nightmare. An open line of communication with one another is key to avoiding many problems when co-parenting. Communicate with one another as to how you will both be able to enjoy the holiday with the children.

Communicating with your children as to what the plan allows them to know ahead of time will keep them from being surprised on the day of. When the children know in advance, they will have time to process and accept how things will be that day allowing them to have a fun Halloween night.

Costume Selection

Costume selection may have gone off without a hitch in years past, but after a divorce, it may become a hot topic. Working together to choose an appropriate costume for your child is a great way to set a cohesive example for your kids. One parent allowing the children to wear a costume knowing the other parent would not approve will set a bad parenting example with lasting effects. You want to keep in mind that older children may take advantage if they know you do not work together.

Splitting Time

Consider the children first. Think about their past Halloween routine. Is one parent still residing in the neighborhood that the children are familiar with? Do they have friends in that neighborhood? Do they prefer to stick with something familiar? Why not keep it classy and allow the children to trick or treat where they want? Consider splitting the night. Let them trick or treat a few hours with one spouse and a few hours with the other.  Let them think of it as getting double the candy.

If you are not able to spend Halloween night with your children, start a new tradition with your kids. Do something special like a family night of carving pumpkins; take them to a pumpkin patch or a corn maze the weekend before.

Whatever you do, do not bring the new girlfriend or boyfriend along, especially if this is all new territory for everyone. This can create tension and uneasiness for all involved—especially the children.

The most important thing is to not ask your children who they would prefer to spend Halloween with. Their first preference is going to be both parents and if that is not possible, do not put your children in an impossible position to choose.

If it so happens that you do not end up with children due to work commitments or other reasons, don’t make a big deal about to your children making them feel bad for having a good time a fun night. If you do not feel like you can handle being alone, make plans of your own with friends.

Disputes Over Religious Beliefs

This can be more difficult to maneuver than simply having a say-so in the type of costume your child is wearing, because the court must balance a parent’s First Amendment right to religious freedom. As with most situations, it would be best if the two of you could work this out rather than have the courts decide. The outcome could result in a division that could be nearly impossible to repair. All parenting agreements should consider the possibility that a child may participate in events that may offend a parent’s religious convictions. These should absolutely be addressed beforehand to allow time for both parties to defend their beliefs.

It can be more tricks than treats when working out holiday custody arrangements, so allow Kevin Hickey Law Partners to help make the holidays a smooth process for you and your family and avoid the nightmare that could evolve from poor planning.

Often times, when parties are involved in a dispute, an experienced, knowledgeable and impartial third party can help assist in resolving a solution that reflects the needs of all involved. This embodies the definition of mediation. Mediation allows participants to voice their opinion, concerns and simply to get things off their chest as well as hear the other party’s point of view. Mediation is more relaxed; therefore, less hostile than the standard litigation process. Before agreeing to mediation, you must remember that mediators will not give legal advice during the mediation and should not make legal conclusions about either party’s case. Kevin Hickey Law Partners extensive family law experience makes us knowledgeable and reliable mediators. You must also keep in mind that just because you are agreeing to the mediating process, you should always have your own attorney to consult with any decisions you make before signing a binding agreement.

One appeal to mediation is that is less formal and more relaxed than standard court proceedings. There is no set process, but the typical mediation process will look like this:

• The mediator will introduce him or herself and then make comments about the rules and goals of mediation.
• Each side is given the opportunity to tell his or her side without interruption from the other side.
• At this point, the mediator may start a mutual discussion with both parties or may meet with each privately, going back and forth, working out each issue.
• After the discussion process, the mediator will bring both parties together to jointly negotiate a resolution.
• If a joint resolution is achieved, the mediator will then put the agreement in writing, advise each party to consult an attorney and ask to sign pending their lawyer’s agreement.
• If a joint resolution cannot be reached, the mediator will summarize the items the parties did agree on (if any) and advise of rights going forward. At this point, both parties will go to their respective attorneys and move forward with standard litigation.

You often hear the term arbitration used in place of mediation, but there is a difference. The main difference is that arbitration is much like the court process as both parties present each side while the arbitrator hears the evidence and makes a binding decision. Mediation allows both parties to work together to a mutual agreement that is beneficial to both parties. Yes, they are both similar alternatives to traditional litigation as both have the same goal in mind—a fair resolution of the issues at hand. Both can be used in conjunction with litigation. When used in conjunction with litigation that means that both parties first tried to negotiate and it failed, so the case must move forward to trial. Both arbitration and mediation utilize an unbiased third party to oversee the process and in both cases, can be binding.

Is there any time you should not agree to mediation? Of course, you should always question whether it is the best option to achieve the outcome you desire. If you or your spouse have unreasonable demands or goals that are difficult to negotiate with, then mediation is not where you want to spend your time or money. Mediation only works when both parties can sit down together and come to a reasonable and fair solution for each side. You should follow your attorney’s advice because this may be your first divorce, but it may be your attorney’s 2,000^th divorce. Let his or her experience and expertise work for you and guide you through the process that results in the outcome you desire. Do not automatically assume mediation will save you money if you and your spouse cannot stand to be in the same room together, much less come to mutual compromises. Your money will be better off spent hiring your own attorney and letting each party’s attorney work out the details.

Mediation has a high success rate when conducted properly. Both parties are able to come together to freely and confidentially present their position in front of a neutral third party. Many people are more satisfied with the outcome of mediation as they are in control of the final result and a part of the resolution. Let Kevin Hickey Law Partners mediate your case or give you legal advice before signing any documents if you are involved in a mediating case.

Most pet owners agree that pets become more than just a four-legged companion; they are family. In most cases, both spouses are just as attached to the pet, so determining who gets to keep the pet in a divorce case can be a bit complex. In January 2017, Alaska became the first American state to enact custody legislation specifically for pets, allowing courts to take an animal’s well-being into account during divorce proceedings. Many states have recently followed suit by becoming involved with pet custody by deciding to treat pets more like children than property. Arkansas, however, still considers pets as property. In all actuality, the court could order the pet sold and the couple to split the profits. It is not likely to happen as that would be the last thing the courts would want to do, but if the divorcing couple cannot come to an agreement, then it is very real outcome. When in the middle of a divorce, remember possession is 90% of the fight. If you decide to waive you’re possessory or ownership interest to the animal because you think it is the easiest thing to do at the time, you should reconsider. When another person takes possession of the pet, it is much more difficult to regain and win rightful possession and control through the court system. Additionally, in order to assure your four-legged friend does not suffer the consequences of a bad divorce, it is advisable to have a pet custody agreement in place.

A pet custody agreement will have many similarities to a child custody agreement:

• A visitation schedule
• Division of costs (veterinary care, food, and other daily necessary items)
• The pet’s primary care giver/owner - who will take care of the pet the majority of the time and whom does the pet live with most of the time
• Details about the pet that include vaccination schedules, date of the last veterinary visit, medication the pet is taking, and any other details concerning the pet’s well-being

Pet custody is often overlooked when couples decide to divorce, as there are many other details for the couple to consider like child custody, the division of assets, spousal support and so on. Although it is often overlooked, sadly, the pet can become a way for a spouse to gain leverage by using their spouse’s emotional attachment to their pet. An even more disturbing situation is when a divorcing parent uses  their own child’s attachment to a pet to add an advantage to win their case.

When developing a case for which person is the best caregiver, things like who has the means, space and time to devote to the pet. A child’s attachment will also be considered in these types of cases. If a child is attached to a pet, the court will often allow the pet to stay with the child resulting in the pet living with the child’s primary caregiver. A spouse that never partook of feeding, walking or caring for a pet will have a much harder time proving a case as to why they are suddenly interested in the pet.

Also, you should be prepared if the case does end up in court, it is possible the spouse not awarded the pet will be awarded the “cash value” of the pet. As inhumane as this may seem, it is the court’s only way of equitable distribution when dividing property since a pet is still considered “property” in Arkansas.

Pet custody is a part of family law, just like a child custody agreement.  Kevin Hickey Law Partners’ expertise will not only help you with your divorce and child custody case, we will be happy to help you with your pet custody case.  We will be happy to assist you in developing a pet custody agreement that is right for you. If you are in the middle of a pet custody battle and it is too late to develop a pet agreement, Kevin Hickey Law Partners will be happy to help you prepare a case to support why you are the best caregiver for the pet.  

You are going through a tumultuous divorce and to make matters worse child protective services (CPS) becomes involved. The first thing you need to do is contact your divorce attorney. Your attorney should be present for all interviews. Additionally, your attorney should be involved with anything that involves child protective services, including all paperwork. You want to make sure you are getting the protection you need as anyone can make a report suggesting that your children are being mistreated, abused and or neglected.  Any person who believes a child is being abused or neglected in good faith should make a report to CPS or to the police. If your soon-to-be ex has made a false report, the first offense is a Class A misdemeanor. False reports thereafter are a Class D felony. Once a report is made, Arkansas law requires that the Division of Children and Family Services (DCFS) or the Arkansas State Police Family Protection Unit must assess the report. It is crucial that you work closely with your attorney during this process.

The first thing that will happen is that CPS will want to talk to you, your children and other people that may have important information like doctors, teachers, daycare workers, etcetera. The law authorizes CPS to investigate any reports of suspected child abuse or neglect. Keep in mind that CPS does not have to tell you before they interview your child and does not need your permission. The child will be interviewed at a location that is convenient and comfortable for the child. For example, at school, daycare or at home. Only after your child has been interviewed will you be notified. Additionally, CPS and the police have the authority to photograph the child as deemed necessary to document the child’s physical condition.

After the interview process, CPS will conduct their investigation. The investigation will entail an assessment of family strengths and risks to the children. If the investigation reveals abuse and or neglect, the police will most likely get involved to place the child in protective custody. If the social worker does not feel the child is in danger, he or she may continue to visit your home to talk about any problems you are having regarding your child and offer help to assist you in making things better for you and your family.

If the report is found to be true, DCSF will notify you and you will have 30 days from the day you receive the notice to request an administrative hearing. This hearing will be your opportunity to appeal the investigative determination. If you do not request the hearing within the 30-day timeframe, the judge will decide the true determination and it will remain a true finding, you name will be placed in the Arkansas Child Maltreatment Central Registry.

If the report is unsubstantiated (not true), you can request a copy of the report. The report will not tell you who made the report. You must send a written, notarized request, along with a check or money order for $10 to get a copy of your report. The request must include your name and address and the names of the children involved. The request should be mailed to:

Arkansas Department of Human Services
Division of Child and Family Services
Central Registry Unit
P.O. Box 1437, (Slot S566)
Little Rock, Arkansas 72203-1437

All hard copy records of unsubstantiated reports are destroyed at the end of the month in which the determination is made, so you must act quickly to get a copy of the report.

If you are a parent of a child involved in an investigation, but you are NOT the subject of the report, your request must include a statement attesting to your legal relationship to the child.

During the investigation and proceedings, if required, it is the goal of the court to get help for the children and the parents so that they can be reunited and the children can live safely with one or both parents.

If you find yourself in a situation such as this, let Kevin Hickey Law Partners help you gather all of the necessary information and consider all of your options before deciding how to proceed.